Get Unstuck
My clients often come to me for coaching because they need help in moving their life forward.
They feel STUCK.
You know, that feeling of trying to wade through water, and the waves keep pushing you back.
Where other professions dive into your childhood and past experiences, life coaching is heavily focused on your future goals and your actions in the NOW. The best way to build momentum is to take action no matter how small.
But how do you take action when everything feels overwhelming and you don’t even know where to start?
The first step is getting clear on what it is you want. You can't really move forward when you don’t know what you want, where you’re going, or why. Get a crystal clear vision on what it is you want to create.
Change takes time, but all you have to do is start somewhere. They key word here? START!
Look at the big vision or goal you want to achieve, then simply ask yourself “What could I do today that would move me closer to what I want?” Then take a small, deliberate action that will help to build the momentum you need to get there. It might be booking some time in your calendar to do some research, or applying for a course. The action itself can be small, but it will have immense power in moving you towards your goal.
Much of the overwhelm, or fear, you feel is all rooted in feeling out of control and feeling powerless within your own life. When you take small steps, it helps you take back your sense of control.
Science has proven that setting goals and committing to their completion increases your levels of happiness, self-efficacy, self-confidence and optimism.
So what are you waiting for, are you ready to set some goals or what?!
The most important part of goal setting is to ensure that you are setting goals that are important to you, goals that are meaningful. You should feel deeply connected to your goals, and they should also reflect your strongest values. When setting your goals, think of how you want to feel when you accomplish these goals. Or ask yourself 'why' you want to accomplish this particular goal. These questions for yourself will reveal some deeper meaning for your goals and will also alleviate the pressure to attain the goal. If you don't reach the goal, but accomplish the feeling that you were trying to feel, I would still count that as a completed goal.
5 QUESTIONS FOR GOAL SETTING:
- WHY am I setting this goal?
- Am I setting this goal for ME (or is it to please other people)?
- What do I hope to gain by achieving this?
- How will I feel once I accomplish this goal?
- How does this goal reflect my values?
Getting into action to build the momentum towards achieving your goals will get you unstuck.